Have you noticed that it is the men usually that must initiate the Valentine Day rituals? You never hear of the women, or let us say, feminine, or even better, the romantic party taking the lead. What is that? Let us assume, to avoid any charges of sexism or dumbism, that one partner in a relationship is more romantic than the other. I mean that in the goopy way, not the sexual way. One sees the beauty of a rose, the odor of a jasmine, etc. The other usually prefers to see things blow up. In the classic male/female pairing, the romantic one is usually the female.
I do not mean it is an absolute. I am sure there are exceptions, and I could not begin to classify same-sex relationships, but I assume they are the same way: with the majority having one romantic partner and the other not so much. What I am speaking of today is the classic relationship, between a male person and a female person, where usually the female is the romantic one.
Why then, does convention have the male, the unromantic lout, expected to handle the delicate intricacies of planning and executing a romantic evening or event? It seems that the one with the expertise, the female, would take over this. That way, she could be sure to get what she wants and that there would be no disappointments from her saying, for example, “Oh, you don’t have to get me anything” and the male person assuming she means it.
What would it take to reverse this and make the romantic one the initiator? Just a thought …